“You’re a loser”
“You can’t do anything”
“You will never achieve anything in life”
“Why were you even born?”
“You are a good for nothing guy”
“You can never be happy”
“You can go and die”
All these sentences were going through his mind as he stood on the ledge of his flat’s rooftop. These were the sentences he had become tired of hearing, sentences he had been hearing all his life. As he stood there the autumn wind blew, slightly caressing his hair and blowing his hair to one side. Tears had wet his cheeks and were trickling down his face. He put one leg forward; it dangled in the air for a moment, and was pushed back by the air.
“This will set me free”, the thought crossed his mind, “Free me from all this sorrow and pain I always carry around”
Clearing his mind he remembered the only person who had always supported him, the image of his sister’s face crossed him and he reminisced all the beautiful moments that he had spent with her: his only collection of good memories. He stepped down from the ledge.
“No I can’t cause this much pain to her, she was the only one who accepted me and nice to me”, He thought.
This was the story of boy who had been the target of harsh words from everyone. This shows that some words you said to somebody, words you don’t even remember saying could do so much harm to them. Buddha once said, “The tongue like a sharp knife. Kills without drawing blood”, you should weigh your words before you say something as a sharp tongue is liked by nobody. When you say even a single negative word to someone, the amygdala (part of the brain) start producing stress- producing hormones and neurotransmitters which can make that person worry and stop thinking rationally.
The words which can hurt others can also save them, make them happy and make them forget all of their worries. If you see someone who is depressed or in deep sadness, go help them and fill them up with joy as the power of speech can do all that. Some word of yours can save lives. Cheerful words such as ‘tranquility’ and ‘love’ strengthen our frontal lobe and stimulate the brain’s cognitive functioning.
A book called Words Can Change Your Brain written by Andrew Newberg and Mark Robert Waldman states that, “a single word has the power to influence the expression of genes that regulate physical and emotional stress.”
Also always be there for a person like that, listen and listen hard. Provide comforting words and solution to their problems. Even just listening is fine because sometimes people need to vent their feelings or only need someone to talk to. At that moment you should always be available.
Your words which in your opinion mean nothing could mean something to others. You literally hold the power to make or break a person. So always use the power of speech wisely
Rumi once said, “Listen! Clam up your mouth and be silent like an oyster shell, for the tongue of yours is the enemy of the soul, my friend. When the lips are silent, the heart has a hundred tongues.”